Personal Power

 

Personal Power

All of us would love to have personal power, the power to manifest our dreams, the ability to remain calm and loving in the face of fear, the power to stay centered in ourselves in the front of attack.

 

Our society often confuses personal power – power within – with power over, controlling others. There is a vast difference between personal power and control.

Personal power comes from an inner sense of security, from knowing who you are in your soul to have defined your intrinsic worth. The energy flows through you when you are connected to and feel your oneness with a spiritual source of guidance. The power is the eventual result of doing deep inner, emotional, and spiritual work to heal childhood fears and false beliefs.

 

Without this inner work to heal the beliefs that create our limitations, we are stuck in our egos, our wounded selves. The very basis of the ego is the desire for control, power over others, and outcomes.

 

Our ego is the Self we created to attempt to control getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. We made our ego self protect ourselves from the losses we fear: loss of Self, loss of other, loss of security, and loss of face. As children, when we didn't get the love we needed, we decided that our true Self must be unlovable. In our attempt to feel safe, we buried our true Self and created the false Self, the ego, our wounded Self. The ego-self then learned how to feel safe by trying to control others and outcomes. The ego believes that having control over how people see us and think of us and the development of things will give us the safety we seek.

Phobia Of Speech

 

Phobia Of Speech

This article is about the fear and phobia of speech. Not everybody can talk fluently in all situations, and life can be pretty tough for people who aren’t. I hope you enjoy reading the article.

 

My name is Steve Hill from Birmingham in England. In childhood, I developed a stutter, or as some people call it, a stammer. My parents tell me it started when I was four years of age.

 

Speaking phobia at school

Despite regular speech therapy over the next fourteen years, the stutter became worse. I remember pretty clearly the fear of reading out from a book in class. Walking into the classroom, for example, an English lesson, I would see a book on each desk. I would start to panic straight away, believing the teacher would make me read a paragraph. Just waiting my turn, knowing that it would result in yet another one of stuttering moments, would be torture.

Positive Mind, Successful Life

 

Positive Mind, Successful Life

It took me a long time to realize the benefits of positive thinking. I had often heard people mention that if you think positive things will happen to you, I used to think they were a bit weird. I now believe they were right, and this article explains why.

 

Growing up through the difficult teenage years and into my early twenties, I felt very sorry. I had a bald patch the size of a ten-pence piece on my head, a speech impediment(stutter), overweight to the point of being fat, and short for a male(5ft4). I used to think I was the unluckiest person in the world.

 

I believed that I received more mickey taking out of me than anyone else, and life was certainly a struggle. To meet members of the opposite sex when you lack confidence and have a speech impediment is not easy. To gain work, order drinks, socialize in general were all difficult for me. Everyone else seemingly breezed and eased their way through life.

Strategy For Success

Strategy For Success

In the quest to achieve success and accomplishment in our lives, a systematic plan of action is needed. Without a plan, even the most significant efforts will be ineffective, eventually degenerating into frustration and wasted time. A guided program allows one to utilize their talents and competencies to the fullest by focusing on a specific outcome in a coordinated and strategic manner. The power of concentrated effort should never be underestimated. A strategy that one should emulate from the world of sports is always seeking to play their game in the competition. One should never be forced into the position of trying to be successful by operating under conditions strategically beneficial to the opposing team. In other words, in seeking success in today's competitive environment, a professional should design an action plan around their strengths and competencies. Play to your strengths and not to your weakness.

 

There is always more than one way to the mountain top; a striving professional should ensure that the path they choose is the one that utilizes their talents and skillsets to the fullest.

The Courage to Say Yes

 

The Courage to Say Yes

In a culture full of reasons to say “no,” it takes a lot of courage to find ways to say “yes.”

 

After all, we’re taught to say “no” from a very young age. Our first word was “no,” and it quickly became our favorite word for most of us. As toddlers and teenagers, we used “no” to differentiate ourselves from our parents, peers, and surroundings. It’s how we began to control what was happening around us, or at least, how we tried to prevent that. It helped us over those early developmental hurdles and gave us our earliest sense of our boundaries — and that’s a lot of significance bound up in such a tiny word!

 

The problem isn’t that “no” in and of itself is somehow wrong; indeed, permitting yourself to say “no” as an adult can keep you out of an awful lot of trouble.

 

The problem is that “No” begins to take on a life of its own. Too often, that life is yours.

 

Life is change, and “no” becomes a way of slowing down that change or trying to stop it altogether. Rather than riding the wave of change into a life full of exciting possibilities, we use “no” as a rope to keep us safely confined to the kiddie pool. It is a shield we use to protect ourselves from having to experience anything new or different.

The Key To Self Discipline

 

The Key To Self Discipline

Self-discipline starts with the ability to control your behavior. That means motivating yourself to do what you need to do and stopping yourself from doing bad things for yourself. The "ability to control" is just the start, though, and real discipline is when you have trained your mind in such a way that you consistently get the behavior you want.

 

Discipline may appear to be a problem of willpower. However, this implies just pushing ourselves more challenging to do things, even when we feel miserable or fighting temptations. It's a good recipe for stress and disappointment, but better ways to a disciplined life.

 

Self Discipline Tips

Have you ever stayed up all night talking about something interesting? Then you know what power the mind has over the body. Sleep can be put off when we are motivated by a passionate discussion, and it doesn't take much willpower to keep doing something when you are enjoying it. That gives us a key to self-discipline.

The Need to Feel Special

 

The Need to Feel Special

From the time Jennifer was a little child, she demanded attention, especially from her mother, Sarah. Jennifer had a special place in the family as the baby and the only girl with two older brothers. She made sure to establish a special relationship with her mother, who relished the connection since she didn't have much of a relationship with her emotionally distant husband.

 

It was easy for Jennifer to control her mother's attention. Because her mother was needy for emotional connection and afraid of not being liked, all Jennifer had to do was get angry at her mother, and Sarah would capitulate, giving Jennifer the attention she craved. Jennifer learned early to control her mother by becoming angry, critical, and withholding love when she didn't do what she wanted. Unwittingly, Sarah contributed to Jennifer's neediness, entitlement issues, and the belief that happiness depended on approval and attention from others.

 

In her late 30s, Jennifer finds herself continuing the pattern she started with her mother – attaching to others in needy and demanding ways. The result is she has not been able to have a successful relationship with any of the men she has dated.

We all need to feel special. It is not the need that is dysfunctional; it is how we get the need met that can be either dysfunctional or healthy. It is dysfunctional when we make others responsible for making us feel special. When others have to give us attention, compliment us, seek us out, and attend to our wants and needs for us to feel special, our behavior is dysfunctional.

The Secret of Self-Esteem

 

The Secret of Self-Esteem

Have you ever thought about what creates self-esteem? Having a deep sense of inner worth is essential to all of us, but many people have some false beliefs about what builds confidence in our merit as individuals.

 

Some of the common false beliefs regarding what creates self-esteem are:

* I will feel good about myself when I'm making $______(fill in the amount) a year.

* I will feel worthy when I am in a relationship with a (beautiful) (handsome) (wealthy) (loving) (fill in own) person.

* I will feel worthy when I get enough approval from enough people.

* I will feel adequate when I have a baby.

* I will feel adequate when_______( fill in the desired outcome that you attach to your sense of worth).

 

However, many people have all of the above and still do not feel deep self-esteem. That's because self-esteem has nothing to do with anything external, such as looks, approval, money, relationships with others, or having a baby.

Ways To Improve Your Lifestyle

Ways To Improve Your Lifestyle

Are you looking at ways to improve your lifestyle? Are you bored in your current role of employment? Do you think you could be achieving a lot more than you are at the moment? Are you seeking a new challenge? In this article, I advise how people can improve their lifestyle; this advice is based on my personal experiences.

 

I believe that we should always be looking into expanding our knowledge and never accept second best. The brain is mighty and loves to be set a new challenge or learn a new task. It is what keeps it alive and ticking over. I am sure that we have all heard of the phrase; I think this job makes me brain dead. This is where someone has a role in employment that is not challenging them or their brain, which can lead them into a state of boredom and even depression. Their mind and brains are desperate for something to get to grips with and something to test them.

 

I am always looking into finding new areas of life which I can learn about. I have recently been attempting to educate myself on the ins and outs of website promotion. This is something that is of great interest to me, and I wanted to find out how you can increase the number of visitors you have to a website. I have spent a great deal of time studying this area, and even though

What you need to know about NLP and Life Coach

 

What you need to know about NLP and Life Coach

What you need to know about NLP and Life Coach Training

 

Feeling frustrated by your job is a widespread occurrence. Many people think they are in a lower position capable of performing and are not quite sure how to get to the next level of responsibility. Much of this is caused by how we have programmed our brains to think and react to situations. An NLP training course can help.

 

A Brief Definition of Neuro-linguistic programming

Neuro-linguistic programming, or NLP, is a set of models of how communication impacts and is impacted by subjective experience. In addition to being a change agent, NLP is also used in psychotherapy treatments for problems as diverse as phobias and schizophrenia. NLP also aims at transforming corporations, showing them how to accomplish their maximum potential and achieve great success.

 

The developers of NLP

The theories and application of NLP were co-created by two men in the 1970s. One a linguist, John Grinder and his partner Richard Bandler. The initial focus of their experiments in NLP was to discover what gave three psychotherapists the advantage in successfully treating their clients. These three psychotherapists, gestalt therapist Fritz Perls, family therapist Virginia Satir and founding president of the American Society for Clinical Hypnosis, Milton H. Erickson, were more successful in treatment than their peers.

 

Timeline of NLP

 1970: Founding and early development

 1972: Research of Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir, and Milton H. Erickson begin.

 1975: Subsequently Structure of Magic Series published

 1976-77: Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson published

 1979: Frogs into Princes: Neuro-Linguistic Programming published

 1980: Neuro-Linguistic Programming: Volume I published

 1980: Bandler and Grinder go their separate ways

 1981: The first of many intellectual property lawsuits begin. NLP Training courses began to be developed by many individuals. Given the diversity of developers and trainers, there is no single definitive system of NLP.

 1982-87: Grinder and Judith DeLozier collaborated to develop the New Code of NLP.

 1984-87: Research reviews in experimental counseling psychology by the United States National Research Council gave NLP an overall negative assessment marking a decrease in NLP research interest

 1988-89: Bandler develops Design Human Engineering and later Neuro-Hypnotic Repatterning

 The 1990s: In the UK and other countries, certification of NLP courses and providers begins

 1996-97: Bandler files suit against Grinder, claiming trademark infringement and intellectual property ownership of NLP.

 

Where the co-creators are now

The end of 2000 achieved a settlement between Bandler and Grinder when they agreed; they are the co-creators and co-founders of the technology of Neuro-linguistic Programming.

 

Richard Bandler is currently with The Society of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and John Grinder can be found at The International Trainers Academy of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

 

NLP Today

NLP continues to be an open field of training with different trainers and practitioners developing their methods and concepts. One common thread in NLP emphasizes teaching various communication and persuasion skills and using self-hypnosis to motivate and change oneself. With numerous NLP practitioners advertising on the Internet today, many of their standards and quality of courses may differ. When searching for NLP Training courses, make sure to choose an organization with a good reputation.

 

 

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What Stops You?

What Stops You?

Have you ever had a terrific idea that you didn't act on? Of course, you have. I don't mean anything fancy either. Nothing earth-shattering. Just a plain old-fashioned good idea which would have made you more money. But you didn't get moving on it.

 

Oh well.

I have a friend I'll call James. James is an independent management consultant and a deep, creative thinker. I have great respect for his ability to understand his clients and develop unique solutions for them. But he isn't very successful. His business is ok but hardly booming–and indeed not where he says he'd like it to be. He works with interesting people–just never enough of them. And aside from soliciting referrals, he does nothing to increase his overall practice.

 

The funny thing is, this guy has more brilliant ideas about building his business than anyone I know. The problem is he doesn't implement any of them. James is just one of those who stops before he ever gets started.

What In The Heck Can A Personal Coach Do?

 

What In The Heck Can A Personal Coach Do?

I just wanted to spread the word about Life Coaching and what it can do to help just about anyone. Not every coach is suited for every client, but the right coach/client combination is a powerful tool.

I hear different variations of the following questions and statements a lot: "What can a coach do for me?", "I can't afford to pay a coach!", "What does SHE know that I don't know?", "I don't need a stinkin' Coach!" Ok, well, I tossed the word "stinkin'" in there (smile), but I do know there are many people who could benefit from the power of coaching but feel they don't need it.

Well, hopefully, the following can open some eyes to the magic of this beautiful tool!

Coaching is an effective process used to support individuals in creating something new for themselves. I work alongside my clients, coaching them by

Your Life Is What You Make Of It

 

Your Life Is What You Make Of It

This article describes how your life is what you make of it. If you are willing to work hard to reach your ambitions and goals, there is no reason why you should not attain them. In my opinion, far too many people try to take shortcuts or are too willing to expect free handouts from other people or have the credit card attitude of buy now, pay later. I hope you enjoy the read.

One of my best friends, Chris, turned seventeen around a month before I did. For his birthday, his father bought him an adorable and sporty-looking car. Chris was delighted and showed his new present to all his mates, including myself. He could not take us out for a spin as he had yet to learn to drive, and I thought what a great gift it had been and returned home to tell my parents.